Just Do It

 

I am a widow; my husband died way too soon; he was only 50 years old.  And the one thing I would like to pass on is this: Do it and do it now.  Whatever your dream is, whatever your desire is: Do it and do it now.

 

I am not saying to rush into a life long commitment marriage or to get into debt up to your eyeballs.  I am certainly not telling you to relinquish your responsibility towards your family, children or loved ones but if you have a dream go for it no matter how small it may be.

 

If I would have waited for my husband I would not have done half the things I did.  I joined the army reserves when I was 26, took belly dance lessons at the YMCA, went to college and business school when I was 38, and went to Virginia Beach with only my teenage son when I was 46. 

 

Some of these things seem so ordinary and not worth mentioning but the fact is my husband did not want me to most of those things.  But I had to do them.  There was a nagging in the back of my head.  I couldnt ignore it. 

 

Now that I am older, my body and joints are getting stiffer and it takes me a lot longer just to stoop down to pick something off the floor.  I have also in the last two years gotten asthma and so at times my moments are restricted until it goes away.

 

My husband had dreams too.  We would get a RV and travel once he retired.  He was working on his model trains but never got to finish it.  He was going to buy a PT Cruiser in about ten years.

 

So if you have dreams and you can do it without hurting anyone, go for it. 

 

There are so many things I had to give up.  I cant go roller-skating, I am afraid if I fall down my bones will break plus the floor is really hard.  I cannot go on carnival rides because now I get motion sickness.  I love walking but I cannot do it if I am having an asthma attack.

 

So there are so many good reasons to do whatever is nagging at the back of your head and do it now.    Your dreams do not have to be big.  Just riding on a bus, train, airplane and helicopter can be a small dream. 

 

I still have to go on a hot air balloon ride but I think I will pass on the white river rapids.  I love the water and though I am fat and old I still put on a swimsuit and swim where no one knows me or at our apartment pool when there are just a few people there. One day I may take dance lessons. 

 

So if you have a dream or a goal, and you can do it without hurting anyone, do it and do it now.  Do not ever say I wish I had this or that.  Life is too short.